I was criticized
for how I was doing my recovery. I was told over
and over what I was doing was wrong. Why wasn't
I encouraged to continue with what was working?
This is a support group isn't it?
The longer I
stayed clean & sober the more criticism I got.
I finely left AA
and continued on with my recovery.
When I found SOS
I really liked the way they embraced the fact
that we are each different. Our recovery is
different for each of us. Our religious and
political views are separate from our recovery.
encouraged many of our members to go to AA for
support. There are SOS members who use both SOS
The problem that
I have had "in my opinion" is that the group
doesnít take a stand about members criticizing
another members way of recovery. If it works it
works. The group in "my opinion" has a duty to
let its members know that there is no such thing
as one way.
With all this
said I would still suggest that SOS members go
to AA for support.
supportive people. Know that you have a "Safe
Place" to come back to. If a member of SOS jumps
on you and says that your recovery plain is
wrong, most of us at SOS will jump to our feet
and defend you & your right to be different. If
what you are doing is working and you are
alcohol/drug free then you must be doing some
I would like to
reach out to AA members. Please do no harm. If
someone can't make it in AA send him or her to
other groups so they may have a chance of
finding recovery. Care about the person first
the group comes second.
In SOS using
other support groups in no way will affect your
standing in SOS. We are each unique. There is no
such thing a "one way".
This is Duaine
M. from Dallas here.
There was a time I did
suggest aa for people to try ďarmed with some
warnings and information on how to protect
Over the years I have
questioned my suggestion to go to aa, even with
information and warnings. I now feel I was
I thought if a person went
to aa knowing there were people who used aa for
the power it gave them over new people they
could be on guard and protect themselves.
indoctrination and misinformation could be dealt
with because they had some knowledge about what
I though these people armed with
knowledge would be ok.
People in early recovery
are vulnerable. Sending
them to or suggesting they go to a religious
cult is never the best or first suggestion.
I also thought it was ok to
think I was an alcoholic.
I am not an alcoholic. I am a person who
drank too much and too often. It evolved into a
physical addiction. If I stopped abruptly it
would cause me physical pain and I stood the
chance of dtís and death. Far too many people
die from abruptly stopping. When a person
becomes physically addicted to alcohol ,
abruptly stopping without medical supervision is
not a good or safe chose.
Once free of the physical
addiction I needed to build a new life without
alcohol. I knew alcohol was no longer an option.
It was also not an option
for me to live the rest of my life in fear of
going back to alcohol. My goal was to live my
life and do things I couldnít do because alcohol
got in the way.
I was looking at a whole
new world and I wanted to explore it.
In the past I would never
have bought a motorcycle because I was too
afraid of driving it drunk .
I bought over the years 6
motorcycles and loved and enjoyed every one of
I had such a fear of public
speaking that I would never ever get up in front
of people and talk.
I added that to my need to
I had so many things on my
need to do list. It became my need to try list.
I needed to try joining hobby groups.
Over the years I have had
so many experiences because I chose life over
the restrictions that alcohol imposed on me.
I believe itís about
Once no longer physically
addicted then itís about choice.
If still physically
addicted than itís about chose. To keep on with
the addiction or search for way to detox.
I meet a person who said he
had quit drinking over 20 years so what was the
odds he would drink tomorrow? Over the years the
time going up 30 years 40years until he passed
away. He never drank after he quit.
I stopped drinking
this writing was done 2/01/2023. Whatís the odds
I will drink tomorrow?
When I went to aa there was
a person who kept getting drunk over and over.
The old-timers kept inviting him every ware they
went. He was always welcomed with open arms.
I asked one of them how
come they were so welcoming of him and kept
telling me I would never make it because I took
credit for what I had done.
He told me I was doing it
wrong and the man who kept failing was doing it
I answered back but I was
He said it doesnít matter
he was doing it right.
I stopped going to aa
because it wasnít about staying sober and
building a life, it was about the god of aa and
the cult of aa.
Where in the 12 steps does
it talk about how to stop drinking and detox?