SOS offers an
approach to sobriety.
SOS meetings, members build a safe environment where there is no
criticism of each other's choices of recovery.
I - Me - My
refrain from using You - We - You Must - We
Must -You Should -We Should - You Need To -
a safe place to share.
How do I go about providing this safe place? I should start with myself.
I realize that I am unique, one of a kind.
No one has the same experiences or feelings that I do.
If I share what I have done or might do if I were in that person's shoes,
and offer it in a sharing manner, then I probably
am doing it the SOS way.
"Sponsors" in SOS.
We are all equal; I have to go outside SOS to have or be a
stay focused on the reason I'm here
For Me for My recovery.
I try to fix someone else then
I'm distracted from my own recovery. I do care about others
in the group and because I care; I will offer my
support, not my criticism. I know that for each of
us the way to sobriety is different.
I will learn to accept that another person's
recovery is going to be different from mine. Part
of my learning to fit into this new world of sobriety is to help make this meeting as safe as possible.
This will make me a stronger person and add power to my
person in the group needs to have a chance to
This is intended to be the first priority. A
signal decided in advance can enable everyone to talk.
A signal decided in advance can enable everyone to talk.
When the signal is given, the person speaking can wind up and
It is of
great importance that each person has a voice.
Anyone who wants to can continue later if time allows.
When everyone has had a chance to speak, then the floor
can be opened, again using a signal to shorten each
personís time in speaking. At your meeting you are free
to use what works.
chairs a meeting indefinitely.
Each member of the group knows he or she has a chance to
become part of running a meeting. This happens by
helping the meeting run smoothly. If for some reason the
chairperson can't make a meeting, there are members to
take his or her place who then become empowered. The
group is also empowered; The group experiments, members
make suggestions on "our" recovery
meeting. What works we can pass on to other SOS members.
will be no promotion of drug use.
There will be no promotion of drug use
except for medical reasons, not for getting-high
reasons. If you are in recovery for alcohol and had no
problem with pot, don't start using pot.
This is a
Abstinence Support group.
I will repeat; SOS is a abstinence support group.
Some members don't refer to them selves as alcoholics
or a drug-addicts. We each have the right to paint a
picture of ourselves as we choose. The purpose of the
group is to experience life clean and sober. The purpose
is not to chant in unison, as we are each unique.
SOS has no central apparatus, hierarchical structures or
individual is a leader in his or her own sobriety.
Our philosophy is that each individual is unique and
should therefore find and fashion his or her own road
to sober living and a full life. We have no interest in
members' private beliefs or lifestyles.
groups are independent
work together as a voluntary association
of freethought groups.
is no hidden agenda.
am free to use other support groups. There is no
single path to sobriety. Using other support groups will
not in any way affect my standing in SOS.
& Nonreligious Freedom.
know that in every recovery group there will be people
with differing views on religion. There will be
people with different views on politics. To keep
our focus on recovery and keep our religious, political
and social views intact, free from criticism, members will
not try to convert us to their religion
or politics. It is in the best interest
of the group and each of us that our religious or nonreligious beliefs be expressed with like-minded people
outside of the meeting.
SOS we build a safe place where
religious and nonreligious beliefs is practiced.
Here everyone is encouraged to follow his or her own
religious or nonreligious beliefs are never challenged
in the group
because they are a private part of my recovery. With my
mind clear, free of alcohol/drugs, I will be better
equipped to follow my own belief system. I can expand
and strengthen my own belief system with like-minded people
outside of SOS meetings. Catholics - Baptists - Hindus - Hare Krishnas - Buddhists - Moslems - Agnostics - Atheists
and Pagans - are free to practice their beliefs with like-minded people outside of SOS Meetings.
Here in SOS we build a safe place where Religious and Nonreligious
freedom is practiced. Here everyone is encouraged to
follow his or her own belief system.
or Tries to Convert
or Subvert Another's Belief System.
are each Unique.
Celebrate- & - Support this Uniqueness. From this celebration of just how different we are.
Strength & Power Grows.
Clean and sober I learn to use the power I have
myself to change my life forever.
celebrate and support this uniqueness. From this
celebration of just how different we are strength and
Clean and sober, I learn to use the power I have within
myself to change my life forever.
I will Accept the Challenge of Living Life
accepted the challenge of living my life Alcohol/drug
There is no one way, there is
only the way that works for you or your group. If it
isn't working then it is up to each of us to to find the
way that works for us or our group. When you find
things that work please share with the group, so we can
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